John Mayer Rules.

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Let's first ignore the fact that I take John Mayer's tweets seriously.

I sometimes like to think that had I not been me, I would have been him. A douchebag, someone who has as many haters as he has fans, painfully mainstream but undeniably talented, leads a boring and yet exciting life.

Okay, maybe I wouldn't have been him. Had I not been me, I would have been a 3-Riyal book in the bargain sales bin of a huge franchise bookstore.

Anyhoo, back to his tweet.

While I agree with JM that my life (and everyone else's!) would be much easier and smoother if everyone just agreed with and listened to me constantly, I don't think that's key.

None of my friends agree with me on anything. I'm constantly slammed by my "circle of trust" for my taste in music and movies (famously the Backstreet Boys and the spoof "Meet The Spartans", for instance), and hanging out with my friends usually means hours of debate on seriously EVERYTHING.

Now, if I took JM's tweet seriously, I would just walk away and look for new friends. But I won't. Because the key to my relationship with my frenemies is that no matter how much we diss and make fun of each other, at the end of the day, we cut the crap and we do and say things to let the other person know they are loved, appreciated and held in high regard.

I have friends who never fail to criticize everything I do. But every time I am sick, they are always going out of their way to make sure I have what I need.

My friends and I are constantly headlocked in never-ending arguments. But they have also always encouraged me to continue doing things that I am passionate about, always praising and motivating me, whether or not they agree with me.

My friends seldom care about my feelings. They always tells me about my flaws, about the things I need to change to become a better human being, how imperfect I am. But they are also the same people who call me and send me meaningless, huggy, cheesy messages every day.

The key to a happy life is the little details, the nice gestures that make up for all the not-so-nice ones.

And when you have no nice gestures, you have no key. All you have is a huge circle of negativity.

In which case, yes. Listen to John Mayer.

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  1. Fruitful FusionAugust 10, 2010 at 4:58 AM

    OMG!!! I absolutely loved this post!!! You know what, it's time I saw my marriage the way you see your friendships :D Thanks for hitting something home to me even though I don't see you as much as I'd like to. xxx

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  2. nessreenAugust 17, 2010 at 7:05 AM

    LOL!! Wanna know a secret? Friendship is code for relationship/marriage. ;D

    Haven't read you in a while! I hope I see you around soon, yeah?

    I always remember you when I quote Snatch. XD

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