Are You Bitch Enough?

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The universal facial expression for bitchiness. Also, clean teeth.

I've recently finished reading that book Why Men Love Bitches, another one of those relationship books. I don't normally read self-help books as they tend to waste my time with things I could've told myself, and this one wasn't an exception.

Being in a relationship renders you blind. You know how when a friend comes to you for relationship advice, you're amazed at how stupidly they're dealing with their problems? You're like "WAKE UP, he's just not that into you!" or "She's obviously treating you like shit, why are you still with her?"

And then things happen to YOU.

That's what this book is good for, if anything. If you're like me, and you don't really appreciate relationship advice because "oh, they don't know what's REALLY going on between us, we REALLY love each other even though he bashes me/he puts me down/he doesn't reciprocate/he kicks my cat." It kinda gives u a nice smack on the back of the head. Kinda.

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The book is for women, not so much for men. Tips like:

* treat him like he treats you.
* make him feel like he's replaceable.
* don't tell him everything.

Apparently, this is what bitches do, and this is what men love.

Now, it's all good when you're a "bitch" to begin with. Men are already (presumably) swarming you. But if you're NOT a bitch, why change yourself to suit someone else's taste?

If you:

* do everything for him, even if it makes you look like a desperate loser to other people
* like to make him feel like he's number 1 and irreplaceable, even if it makes u look cheap
* like to talk to him about everything, even if it makes u a nagger

THEN DO SO.

If he can't accept that, he is NOT THE RIGHT ONE.

It is only AFTER you have found the right one that COMPROMISE is possible. Not before.

The book had some pretty interesting stuff though. For instance, in one of the chapters, it explains why women tend to feel neglected, even when they're really not. Women apparently like to give everything. They would drop whatever to spend time with their partners. As a result, they EXPECT this kind of... let's call it devotion. And that's not how men roll. Like, WHO KNEW, RIGHT? [eye-roll]

All in all, the book is an entertaining stereotype party.

I recommend reading it on a nice, PMS day.

And a dose of Miss Keys.


Comments

  1. QusayFebruary 24, 2010 at 9:58 AM

    Those book are just not right, because... I mean, how long r u willing to play that game?

    How long can u pretend 2 b a beyatch if u r not? and how long can a man play the jerk if he isn't? it gets old after a while and then what... masks fall and so does the relationship.

    Be who u r and value yourself, everything else.. is extra

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  2. frogmanFebruary 24, 2010 at 1:11 PM

    I will agree with qusay on this one..

    I will also agree with your statement "If he can't accept that, he is NOT THE RIGHT ONE"

    how can these books expect us to call the relationship serious, if all the advice they give us revolves around making fools of our selves and being who we aren't..

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  3. nessreenFebruary 24, 2010 at 7:39 PM

    qusay:

    I've always wondered about that. Why do (some) guys play the jerk?

    frogman:

    Advice from books like this is rarely helpful, but quite entertaining.

    It's true, you're right. Some men love bitches, other men love non-bitches. So why stress over it, you know?

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  4. Smart CoOKieFebruary 24, 2010 at 9:22 PM

    We were just discussing this book yesterday. Even though we haven't read it. But apparently I am a bitch, so I shouldn't worry or bother reading it.

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