As You Sow, So Shall You Reap.

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I spent all day visiting my cousin T after she had her surgery. This is my cousin who has done nothing but spoil me ever since I was a little girl. She bought me things, she has never forgotten to call me or get me (expensive!) presents on my birthday every year, even though I don't celebrate birthdays, and she has just been nothing but awesome to me ever since I can remember.

I visit her as often as I can, hoping I could spoil her back, do things for her, especially right now that she is recovering and still in so much pain. But it's a little difficult to do.

Even now, as weak as she is, everytime I go visit her, she stresses herself out to make sure I'm comfortable. She fusses over me, asking if I've been fed, if I've been given something to drink, if I'm bored do I want her to go play a movie for me. I tell her to relax and stop worrying about me, but she ignores me. The little kids come over to me and crowd me, and she tells her sister to please let the kids out because they are annoying me.

At one point, her mom (I call her Babu, my uncle's wife) asks me to help move a couch for T to sit on. T yells at her mom and gets very upset. "How can you ask her to move the couch?!", T says.

I get up and move the couch anyway. It's the least I could do. T was clearly upset all night that I did. It was frustrating. I just want to help her.

In so many ways, it's my fault, too. I have told her many times about how I always do my best to stop people from taking advantage of me, from ordering me around and treating me like crap. In our society, Respect is big, and part of Respecting someone is to treat them like royalty.

I have always made it a point that people should treat me no less than royalty.

This is what I've sown. I should reap.

Feels like shit.

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  1. BabyPinkNovember 1, 2009 at 3:35 AM

    Inao. I hope she gets better and fully recovers soon aden mambo kalebati a kararata anan a ginwa ngka. *Hugs!*

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  2. nessreenNovember 1, 2009 at 8:11 AM

    Thanks, Druggie! Basta a pad-drug na mbara-mbarang dn a i-pkarata a ginawa niyan. XD

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